Moving In Together
Moving in together with your partner can be a really big decision. Before jumping the gun and making what could be one of the biggest decisions of your life, it’s important to consider the reasons as to why you want to move in together. Getting this right can make the difference between a relationship working or failing. Everybody is different and of course everybody has their reasons for doing things which is what makes it even more important that as a couple you both have similar reasons for wanting to move in together.
Good reasons to move in together:
- You have been together for some time and feel you’re ready to take the next step and be able to spend more time together with each other. If this is the case it’s always a good idea to try and build up the amount of time you spend with each other first prior to moving in. If until this point you’ve only spent small amounts of time of each other, it will be good to get to know if you get on well with each other or if you just rub each other up the wrong way when you spend longer amount of time together with each other. A good idea is to maybe try some weekends away as a first step.
- When you’re both living in separate locations. This can often make relationships quite difficult. We’ve all been there where we’ve had to travel between our house and our partners house packing bags, taking things with you and running backwards and forwards and all the difficulties come with trying to live your life between two different locations.
- You have a healthy relationship and whilst you love spending time with each other, you also both have friends and interests outside of the relationship. This is always a great thing to have. If you’re looking at moving in with each other, despite meaning you will be spending more time with each other you still need your own space.
Bad reasons to move in together:
- Probably the number one, worst reason to move in with your partner is based on the fact it might save you some money. Living alone can often be expensive however, if your motives for wanting to move in with your partner are solely based on being able to save some money by sharing the costs of living then this really is not a good foundation to develop your relationship on.
- If you have any doubts or concerns about your partner and do not have 100% trust in them then wanting to move in with them to make sure you can keep an eye on what they’re doing, where they’re going and who they’re doing it with is never a good idea. If you feel you can’t trust your partner than that’s an issue that you need to address and moving in with them is probably the worst thing you can possibly do
- You met your partner a few weeks ago and decided that you’re in love with each other and want to get married and have children together. When we meet somebody new, it is very easy to instantly get on and within weeks let your ideas and thoughts get carried away. The fact is, within the first few weeks it is not reality. It’s what we known as the honeymoon period and this really isn’t very good time to be making big decisions.
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